Fine, Girls Suck Too.

I bet you didn't see this coming…. However, in the spirit of the equality that I'm always advocating for, I feel the innate need to point out that yes, girls suck too.

In my previous post, I'll admit I victimized myself a bit.

"Oh woe is me, he flirted with me even though he had a girlfriend..boohoo boohoo"
*throws arm over head and faints from trauma*

But, the truth is I was every bit as involved as he was.

Was it kinda shitty that he made a pass at me even though he was already in a "committed monogamous relationship?"

Yes.

But was it naive of me to think that he was actually in a serious committed monogamous relationship with a high schooler while he was on his way to college?

Absolutely.

The real issue here is, frankly, at 18 we all think we're all grown ups with serious issues and all that jazz. When really we're in college living a pretty privileged life, if you ask me.

I digress…girls suck too.

And I whole-heartily apologize for my earlier post, seeing myself as the sole victim in a situation that I was equally tied up in.

See, a few years ago I was having this discussion with someone else and he said something I hadn't thought of before:

"Girls always think that boys are the bad guys. We break hearts. We cheat. We lie. We 're no good losers or Mama's boys or spoiled or whatever other label they can give us. But it works both ways…Girls break hearts. Girls cheat. Girls lie. And every good rock, R&B, jazz, country, pop, or folk song is about a girl that is either making or breaking a guy's life….but usually breaking. And I think that you all  get so caught up in your own damn feelings that you forget we…the male population… also have feelings and emotions."

And in that moment my entire view on the world was rearranged. That sounds silly, I know. But before that conversation I had never even stopped to consider that guys feel the same way about stuff that girls do. And that we were all both the victims and the assailants.

Girls scratch and claw and bite. We fight. We hiss. We're scary and weird. We're all a little "dark and twisty" on the inside. We tear things apart. We're generally vindictive etc etc

And so are boys.

At the end of the day, when we've all fought the good fight, none of us are really better than anyone else.

Boys suck.
Girls suck.
We all kind of suck.

And in that we should rejoice. Finally, some common ground in this age old battle of estrogen v. testosterone.